Phobias & Ways We Try To Overcome Them

Phobias & Ways We Try To Overcome Them


I have a couple of phobias and most of us do. Most of us are afraid of something.Whether it’s an extreme fear i.e. phobia or just something that makes your heart race, we are all afraid of something.

Irrational fears such as phobias can be debilitating to the person suffering from it. Ok, so I’ll just put this out there, I have two very big phobias and maybe a few small ones. The two big ones, Arachnophobia (fear of spiders)and Acrophobia(fear of heights) have plagued me for years because they inhibit me from doing anything that involves either.

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How it affected me growing up….

I remember growing up when my family would go on vacation, my mom would always have to get a room on the floor closest to the ground otherwise, I wouldn’t be able to make the walk from the elevator to the hotel room. There were even a couple of times when she wasn’t able to select a different room, so we had to go with what we were given and I had to be carried to the room with my eyes closed because I physically couldn’t walk.

My fear of heights is so strange because when the fear sets in, my body does this strange thing where my legs turn into jello, rendering me in a sort of handicap when it comes to walking. My fear of spiders isn’t much better but I can happily say that it doesn’t inhibit my physical capabilities.

My thoughts on overcoming them….

I’ve always wanted to overcome these fears, because damn it, I don’t want some stupid idea in my head to run my life. With spiders, I’ve tried looking at pictures online and it only makes me sick to my stomach. One crawled on my stomach one time when I was sleeping and I woke up to it staring me in the face which caused me to leap out of bed and scream and I stood there in a zombie-like trance for like an hour until the shock of it wore off.

Think I’m being dramatic? Well, let a spider crawl onto your bare skin and see how you feel. As far as heights, I’ve tried exposing myself to higher, well, heights, and didn’t make it very far. That’s the major problem with phobias, their hold over your psyche is unparalleled.

Those phobias aren’t my only fears, though. I have smaller fears that I encounter every day like driving, public speaking, rejection, and failure. Those I think are more attainable fears to overcome. Take public speaking, for example, I’ve always been afraid of speaking in front of large groups of people, as are most people. It’s a very common fear.

Little tricks I’ve learned…..

I found a way to overcome this, though. In school, when we had an oral assignment, I would always volunteer to be first when presenting, because I found that if I got it over with quickly, I would be better off. Think about it, if you wait and wait and wait to do a speech, you’re adding more pressure to yourself and the tension builds making you far more likely to “mess up” than if you just get it over with.

That is the secret to overcoming a small fear, just facing it head on. This won’t work with phobias, but if you apply this philosophy to small everyday fears, you’ll find yourself way more likely of overcoming it.


If you liked this post, you might want to check this one out.

How do you overcome your fears? Tell me what your phobia is (if you have one).


What This Vet Visit From HELL Taught Me!

What This Vet Visit From HELL Taught Me!


I have a story to tell and it’s not a good one. I recently went to the vet and it was the worst experience! This is what I learned from this vet visit from hell!

This post is gonna be a little bit different from my normal posts, because it’s not gonna be so cheerful, but it will be informative and please continue to read on if you have a pet that you care about as this contains some very important information about choosing a good vet to take your dog to.

Where it all began…..

Last Thursday, I took my dog Cooper to the vet because he was having problems with his skin being really red, irritated and itchy. I knew it wasn’t fleas because I give him flea and heartworm meds every month and I also didn’t see any on him.

I had recently started using this new vet in my area and had read good reviews online thinking this might be a good vet. There were some bad reviews but they were far less than the good. I figured I would check them out. Since I worked during the day, and didn’t have anyone to take him to the vet or me, I dropped him off at that vet the first two times for his shots. BIG mistake.

You won’t believe what happens next…

When I took him to the vet this past Thursday, I was able to take him myself and got to meet the vet for the first time. When he walked into the exam room, he was friendly and said hello and everything seemed fine. As soon as I put Cooper on the exam table for the vet to examine him, my dog started freaking out. I’ve never seen him this scared of a vet before in my life, but I just chalked it up to being nerves.

Well, as soon as the vet started poking around his face, Cooper bit him and apparently this pissed off the vet because he began to choke my dog to the point that he was screaming! I immediately told him to stop and do you know what his response was? “Well, he bit me.” Uh yeah he did, and your response is to choke him?

Needless to say, I grabbed my dog and his leash and got the heck out of there. First of all, my dog has never acted that way at a vet before and I had never seen him so terrified. This got me to thinking, both times that I had dropped him off there while I was at work, what was that vet doing to my dog? Maybe he has done this before to my dog and that’s why when I put him up on the table near that vet he started freaking out!

What happened after……

I left the vet so upset not just because this happened to my dog (in front of me no less), but because this might be happening to other animals that go to that vet. I went home and researched what I could do about a vet who is mistreating animals and was surprised to find that there isn’t much that you can do.

You can file a complaint with your veterinary state board, but what I found out, is that few veterinarians ever get in trouble and if they do they are only fined or put on probation but it is so rare that a vet’s license is pulled. THAT IS APPALLING! So say that your dog dies because of something your vet did or failed to do, the most that would happen is they would be fined or put on probation!

Why is that?!?!?

Well, there are two “explanations” for this.

1. In the U.S., only the state licensing boards have jurisdiction over vet’s licenses, meaning they only have the power to authorize disciplinary actions or fines.

2. As awful as it may sound, in the U.S. judicial system, pets are considered property and therefore not given the protected rights that humans have.

So, what can you do?

Well, you can spread the word to other people about the bad vet and cause them to lose customers. I would shame and name that vet right now on here if it weren’t for them being able to sue me for defamation of character. I will, however, be writing a scathing review on google!

I basically just want anyone who has a pet and is reading this to know, do your research before going to a new vet. Don’t just read reviews online like I did, because they aren’t always 100% accurate. Ask a family member or friend who they would recommend and do a background check on the vet to make sure they haven’t had a lot of complaints filed against them.

I learned my lesson from this and just so you know, I ended up taking my dog to a better vet farther away (it was worth it though) and that vet was kind, professional, and had no problems with Cooper. He’s home now, safe and his skin is looking a little better each day. If you want to know where you can file a complaint click this link.

On a much more positive note, since you are here reading about my pet, you might be interested in this post as well.

Thank you for reading and please leave a comment below letting me know how you found your vet, or what you would do in that situation!

Feeling The Effects Of My Bad Eating Habits

Feeling The Effects Of My Bad Eating Habits


I feel awful! I’m really starting the feel the effects of my bad eating habits.

This past Saturday was really good for me. I ate some good food, went shopping, and spent time with family. However, Sunday was not so great and I’ll tell you why.

I had a food hangover. I woke up that morning feeling like a ton of bricks had hit me and had a hard time keeping my eyes open. Every step I took that day felt like such a strain. I know what your thinking, “it’s not a food hangover, it’s an ACTUAL hangover.” Well, I’m sorry to say that was not the case at all. Let me elaborate.

Since the middle of February, I started eating healthier and exercising 2-3 times a week. When I say eating healthier, I mean cutting out processed sugars, junk food, and carbs (somewhat). I also drink only water and haven’t had a carbonated drink in over 2 years.

For Breakfast,

I would usually have some sort of egg whites and avocado.

For Lunch,

I would usually have some sort of salad, chicken or fish with a side of veggies.

 For Dinner,

I would usually have a combination of chicken or fish and veggies. If I was craving something sweet, I would usually reach for some sort of fruit. That combined with daily exercising gave me more energy every day and improved my mood slightly. I lost about 10 pounds over 2 months.

BEFORE when I would eat “unhealthy food”, I didn’t really noticed how it made my body feel. I only noticed that the food tasted good. Saturday, I had decided to give myself a cheat day and splurge on some “good food”. I ate 2 slices of cake (it was my mom’s birthday), and a big bowl full of chili.

If you think, “oh chili’s not that bad”, then listen to the way I make it. Put a handful of Fritos into the bottom of a bowl, pour chili on top, sprinkle some cheese on top of that, and top with sour cream and green onions. Yep, it’s more than your average chili.

Feeling The Effects…..

When I woke up the next morning, I couldn’t believe how awful I felt and finally had that aha moment. It’s true what they say about eating well and exercising having an effect on your body. You could tell me that over and over again before, but it would go through one ear and out the other.

I think sometimes you just have to experience something for yourself for it to actually sink in. For a lot of us, it takes seeing yourself looking overweight or seeing a picture of yourself to finally decide to change our eating habits. But this time for me, it took a “food hangover” to get me to see the error of my ways.

I can’t say that I’ll never splurge again, because that would be unrealistic, but I do know that it won’t happen again anytime soon, and I want to stay on this healthy track because my body feels so much better when I treat it right.

If you want a good “diet” meal plan to follow, here is a great cookbook to help!

Have you ever had that aha moment with your lifestyle habits? How do you stay healthy? Also how was your weekend?

Natural Argan Oil & Coconut Oil Beauty Products
Natural Argan Oil & Coconut Oil Beauty Products

Natural Argan Oil & Coconut Oil Beauty Products

Last week, I was sent two beauty products in the mail from a company called Radha Beauty. One of the products was Argan Oil and the other was Coconut Oil, both of which use natural ingredients.

Ever since Argan Oil products came on the market, I’ve taken an interest in them. The first time I tried an Argan Oil product, was from a company named One N’ Only. They have mostly hair care products and I’ve used just about every Argan Oil product they sell. When I received the opportunity to test out the two products from Radha Beauty, I knew I had to take it. No Argan Oil product had steered me wrong yet, and I’ve been intrigued by Coconut Oil since I’ve heard all the wonderful things about it.

Natural Argan Oil & Coconut Oil Beauty Products

The first product, the Argan Oil, came in a little blue glass bottle that also came with a dropper. The description on the bottle said, ” Radha Argan Oil is 100% pure and certified organic. This oil is extracted from the nut of the argan tree, then first cold-pressed to protect its revitalizing and hydrating properties. Radha Argan Oil can be used for many areas including hydrating and nourishing hair & skin, as a daily moisturizer, skin treatment, and treating split ends.”  Yes, you read that correctly, 100% pure and certified organic. I don’t know about you, but that has my vote.

I applied three drops to my hands and rubbed them together while evenly distributing the product over my face, neck and hands. Please be careful not to put too much on your hands, as you will make your hands too greasy. A little goes a long way! I’ve only had a week to really test it out and can only see a small difference, but with time I know that I will see more results. I will post some more pictures as I progress, but in the meantime, here is one to give you an idea of how well it’s worked on me:

Natural Argan Oil & Coconut Oil Beauty Products

I’ve been applying it everyday morning and night with 3 drops onto my hands and rubbing them in thoroughly. It is the end of the week, since I started using this Argan Oil, and I’m pretty pleased with how my hands look and feel. They seem to be softer and smoother.

The Coconut Oil, which is the other product I was sent, hasn’t been used everyday, but that is only because I used it to cook with. The Coconut Oil is 100% pure fractionated coconut oil and is odorless, colorless, and non greasy. The REALLY good thing about this coconut oil, is that it is a carrier oil that does not go rancid and has a very long shelf life. Sound good to you? Yep, I thought so. I used this to fry up some eggs, and true to what was promised, it was odorless and worked really well by keeping my eggs from sticking to the pan.

There are other uses for the Coconut Oil though, so if your not interested in using it for cooking, then read the list below for other ways to use it.

  • Cosmetics: Used in the preparation of soaps, lotions, ointments, and other cosmetics.
  • Aromatherapy: A great carrier oil that facilitates the absorption of other oils and herbal extracts.
  • Medicines: Has powerful antiseptic and disinfectant properties.
  • Hair care: Used in a number of hair care applications.


Let me give you a little bit of background information about Radha Beauty. Radha Beauty was started in 2014 as a 100% pure & natural oils line and a natural skincare line. Radha Beauty embellishes beauty with the earth’s most natural oils and their natural skin care line. Their products are Cruelty Free and Not Tested on Animals. They believe that beauty does not have to be bad for us, as in our industry today, harsh chemicals are used in most beauty products. Their professional-level performance and luxe feel beauty line embodies luxury and conscience using high quality and organic ingredients which are effective and good for Mother Earth..

So, all in all, I have to say that I really enjoyed these two products and love EVEN MORE that their values are aligned with my values. Any beauty company that tries to stay organic, pure and cares about animals has my vote!

If you would like to know where you can check out more about the product or if you want to place an order for one of these products click here.

Thanks as always for reading and if you have any questions about this post or these products, leave me a comment below.

I also did a post on my favorite combination skincare products and you can check it out here.

What did you think of my review? What is your favorite beauty product right now?

**This is a sponsored post I received these products complimentary, but all thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.**

Need Some Inspiration? Here Are A Few Tips


Need Some Inspiration? Here Are A Few Tips


Whenever I need some inspiration, the first thing I do is go to the internet to search for tips. Throughout my time blogging and just online in general, I’ve picked up a few things I want to share and these things have made me not only become productive in blogging, but also productive in normal everyday tasks. I’m more thoughtful than I used to be.

What are those small things I’m talking about?


  • Creativity. This is important not only for productivity, but also for inspiration. For example, one person might see a bowl of fruit sitting on a table. Another may see what they could do with that bowl of fruit. That’s where creativity comes into play. It’s being able to see outside of the box. I took a creativity course at Coursera and was shocked by how much my creativity was being put to waste.
  • Planning. This may seem like something designated just for type A people, but if you ask a group full of successful people, they’ll say they couldn’t have gotten where there are now with out some type of plan set in place. This is especially important to bloggers.
  • Help. Ok, let me be more specific, a lot of times we think that we can take everything on ourselves and fail to notice sometimes one really important fact; sometimes you NEED help. Help is almost a necessity when it comes to productivity. Sometimes you can get things done ten times faster with help than if you’d done it by yourself. Some of you might say, I can’t afford to hire someone to help me. Well, my fellow bloggers, if you haven’t heard of Coschedule by now, you should REALLY check them out. They cut the majority of your time in half for you; it’s a Godsend and it’s relatively cheap.



Now that we’ve gotten productivity and the reason why I just started noticing these things in the first place out of the way, lets talk about inspiration… the reason for this post.


One of the hardest things when blogging for a long time, as any blogger will tell you is to find inspiration for your next blog post. It’s very easy to start typing away once you’ve thought of a topic, but actually coming up with a topic…. Forgot about it. It’s not that there isn’t anything to talk about, it’s just that after a certain amount of time coming up with these topics, you’ve seemingly exhausted all of the ideas that you started out with and there is a period of time where you feel stifled.


Don’t get discouraged though because there are things you can do to reignite that creative spark in you.

That is the main reason for this post. I’m going to give you some tips that I’ve found very useful when looking for inspiration.


  1. Music– when you play a song, it triggers emotions in you, whether that is happiness, sadness, anger, or excitement. Emotion is a crucial component of inspiration.
  2. Use a concept bubble – You remember those little round circles you used to draw on your paper in grade school that had even more little bubbles extending from the original?( if you don’t know what that is click here. ) This is an invaluable tool for any creative person.
  3. Keep a notebook – this isn’t an entirely new concept and I know that a lot of other bloggers have blogged about it, but I’m going to talk about it too. Keeping a notebook nearby is a great way to jot down ideas when inspiration strikes, because the majority of the time, it strikes at inopportune moments.
  4. Observe your peers – Whatever thing your seeking inspiration for, chances are there is someone out there who is a master at this particular thing and not only will you learn from their genius, but you’ll draw inspiration from what they’ve done.


Those are my tips, and hopefully you find them useful and maybe even draw inspiration from them. Inspiration can be found any and everywhere, all you have to do is stop and take notice of them.


Let me know what you think of this post below! Where do you draw inspiration? What do you do when you feel creatively stifled?


Photo By: Sergei Zolkin

Beauty Ideals: How Today's Society Views Beauty

Beauty Ideals: How Today's Society Views Beauty


Today’s society has a very skewed, ideal view of beauty. I came across an article on The Huffington Post that was discussing our view of beauty in today’s society and it rang so true. We’ve all become obsessed with beauty and looking perfect. Has it always been this way? Yes, but to a certain degree, it was less prevalent in previous generations than in

Yes, but to a certain degree, it was less prevalent in previous generations than in todays. What is the difference? Well, for starters, the rise of social media and our obsession with it leaves us disconnected from one another and not only that, but it’s easier to become an “instant” celebrity thanks to apps such as Instagram, vine, and twitter.

All someone has to do now, is film a video or take pictures of themselves and upload or click onto one of these apps, and given the right formula, you have an instant celebrity. Is social media 100% to blame for this. No, we all are born with the teensiest bit of attention-seeking qualities in us, and social media just helps that along a little bit.

Selfies are very harmful to our self- esteem. I’m sure a lot of people do take selfies because they’re fun, but for most, 50 or more are taken before you even post one that you like to social media. Think about that…. it takes 50 different tries for you to decide you like a picture of yourself that you can share with other people. That’s just not healthy.

A good example of the standards of beauty we have in today’s society is Actresses and Female Singers.

Let’s Look At Actresses…..

In today’s society your average actress peaks by their late twenties and this is from the view of casting agents and studio executives. An actress peaking at such a young age is ridiculous! I remember growing up, my favorite actresses were Julia Roberts, Meg Ryan, Meryl Streep (of course, she being the exception to this), and Glenn Close. How many times have you seen those actresses (beside Meryl Streep) appear in movies today? It really is mind blowing to think about.

Let’s Move On To Female Singers…..

Think about Janet Jackson, Madonna, Cher, Celine Dion. They were all extremely popular when they first started their careers. When was the last time you heard something new from Janet Jackson? Madonna does okayyyy for her age but not nearly as well as she used to. Cher and Celine have both done their Las Vegas shows, but those are mostly just shows of their greatest hits not from a new album. So, what is the problem? It’s not their talent, as most of them have still pretty much got it in the talent department. The sad truth is, it’s their age. Once you hit that certain point in your life as a woman and you start to get wrinkles and cellulite and stretch marks, your seen as damaged goods and not considered all that beautiful anymore.

Is There A Solution To Any Of This?


I don’t know if there is, but I have an idea on how we can work on that. For one, stop taking so many selfies and for that matter just step away from your phone completely. Not forever, of course, but just to give yourself a break from the constant focus you put on yourself. Also step away from the mirror. This is my challenge for you, don’t look in the mirror all day for one day and see how you feel. If you think you’ll be too tempted, cover your mirrors with something. I know that may seem like a difficult task for some of you, but think of what good your doing yourself. Do you want to be defined only by your looks? That’s what your saying when you place importance on your looks over your mind.


I hope this has opened your eyes even just a little to our beauty standards. I also hope that you take that challenge and if you do, please let me know how it went!

If you’re interested in how food affects your body, then you need to check out this post.


What defines you? What do you think is beautiful about yourself (excluding your looks) ?


Photo By: Morgan Sessions